• This too shall pass.

    For some strange reason the minute you hit your forties, especially if you are a woman, you are deluged with advice – a large portion of which falls into the following six categories and often makes me wonder if Sylvia Plath must have spent time on the Internet before putting her head in the oven. 1.  Advice… Continue Reading

  • Bitch smash.

    I am a pretty regular listener to the NPR program Here and Now.  Recently I caught an interview conducted by host Jeremy Dobson with writer and actress Sandra Tsing Loh – author of a new book titled The Madwoman in the Volvo. The segment was titled Why It’s Time to Talk About Menopause. You can… Continue Reading

  • No chance in hell.

    Or how finding out you might have a brain bleed and a baby on the way causes you to finally throw away your tattered underwear. Jean Paul Sartre said that life begins on the other side of despair.  Obviously Mr. Sartre had never spent much time in a modern emergency room.  He would have found… Continue Reading

  • Love in the time of menopause.

    My husband and I are not ones for saying I love you all the time.  We like to throw it out there randomly to keep each other on our toes.  Like a fire drill. He will say “I love you.” And then I say “I love you too.” And then he says “I know.” For… Continue Reading

  • The middle-aged selfie…a photo essay.

    Otherwise known as how to be the center of my own lazy-eyed, big-nosed, double-chinned universe.  John Singer Sargent, a renowned portrait artist who died in 1925, famously said that every time he painted a portrait he lost a friend. Maybe that’s why self-portraits are so popular. But if having total control over our own image… Continue Reading

  • Ruin porn.

    The upper arms softly undulate. A lip of flesh slips over the Cesarean section scar. A constellation of cellulite on the backs of the thighs. The breasts at repose against the ribcage. Some people travel to the streets of Detroit’s west side to rubberneck at the burned out remains of a once flourishing landscape. I… Continue Reading